A Different Feminist.

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the divinity of motherhood. And how being a woman, and the beautiful calling that comes with it, is being constantly ripped apart.

 For this reason I declare myself a feminist. 

But, I am a different type of feminist than your grey power suit wearing feminist crying for equality with men.

 I am a feminist who takes the word feminine--which is defined as having like qualities as a traditional woman, including the appearance of beautiful--and applies that into action.

 I love the traditional woman. And I think that the power of the traditional woman exceeds that of the business woman. How? Aren't your mothers the ones that shaped you? Aren't your mothers the ones that helped you become who you were? It is so sad that today if you don't have a pay check, you aren't doing any good in the world. What about raising the next generation to be charitable, hard working, and believing in Christ and morals? Isn't that doing some good in the world.

 And below is my take on things. It may not be cohesive because I am trying to collect my thoughts about this. And, don’t be surprised if I post more on it. 

Think about the word mother. What is associated with it?

Teacher.  Nurturer.  Discipliner. 
Memories of my mom include:

·         Times when I couldn’t pick myself off the floor, and use my brain to think and my mom helped me realize crying isn’t going to help.

·         Many trips to and from dance, school, piano lessons, track, other various commitments I had. In one word: dedication.

·         Phone calls home from college about random things, more tears on my side. Patience.

Obviously I have a lot more memories of my mom. But, these are just a few.
I think that these words are beautiful.

Sadly, I think that the adversary knows that being a mother, or helping nurture, is one of the most wonderful things someone can do. It emulates Christ. So Satan tries to destroy the beauty.
Think of one of the most foul words. The F word. And what is used ever so often preceding it? Mother. In Russian, the word Mother is just a harder sound away from being the F word.

Furthermore there is this constant hum about how being a stay at home mom is easy. Now, I know I'm not a mother, but this topic is what got me so interested in this post. Yes, a stay at home mom may not be running from an office and doing all the other stuff a mom does. She may be at home making meals, cleaning, spending quality time with her children, and maybe even have some time for personal work. But a stay at home mom struggles with something else. At least in my mind she does. Can you imagine doing something that you feel is right and the whole world tells you that not only is what you are doing amazingly easy, but worthless? Can you imagine being a well-educated woman, ready to be proficient in the work force, but feeling that it is best for you to stay home with your children? Everyone seems to think that being a stay at home mom is life's dream, but they also seem to think that these women who dedicate their life to service are incompetent and unable to do anything 'real' in the world.

Now, I am not trying to say that I think that you cannot be a good mom if you are working. All I am trying to say is that the traditional woman, the one who stays at home with her child, is also a strong woman. You don't have to be a CEO of a multi-million corporation to be a woman of worth. And the world needs to start realizing this.

Like I said, this is more of just a bunch of thoughts racing through my head. But, maybe one day I'll write a better understood post about it.

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Kylie Anne Martinez